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JACKBUTTMOMMY posted...
I'm not sure, I don't know any women like that of which I am aware. I think it might be less overt. Like some people are super woke and okay with bisexuality but react weird when actually faced by it. Bisexuality in women is usually more accepted (at least when put in action) than in men I think it’s based in the same fears that have made it so that men who have sex with men are unable (or barely able) to donate blood
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LinksLiege posted...
Iunno, I'd rather be with someone who isn't scared of a totally benign part of who I am. Agreed, and I’ve put some thought into this. I think that if I tell a woman in person that I’m bi (say on a date) then it automatically humanizes the concept and she might be more likely to be unbothered. I think a lot of bi denial is subconscious or semi-conscious, but if I bring it to consciousness then I think I can overcome If nothing else, I’ll match with more women and feel better about myself. I’m not nearly as flattered when men find me attractive lol
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Lost_All_Senses posted...
BloodyNate posted...Like wtf is up with girls being scared of bi guys? lol cutting right to the core of it, but yeah that’s probably the biggest thing. But men who have sex with men are typically so incredibly careful now because of the stigma. Hell, there’s medication you can take that basically makes you immune to HIV
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Weird how the opposite seems to be true, where dudes (seem to be) more attracted to women who are bi. Probably hoping for a 3-way
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BloodyNate posted...
Lost_All_Senses posted...BloodyNate posted...show hidden quote(s) I doubt many women know that stuff. They are probably pretty ignorant to bisexuals unless they are drunk and making out with their friends cause they are "fun" and "spontaneous" :3. I was actually hoping to be enlightened by your response which I was. Im not part of that world and I never really think about it. So Im just trying to be the voice of the ignorant atm. Don't know how to remedy it. It's not like you can just bring up aids prevention in your bio without people seeing a huge red flag.
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Lost_All_Senses posted...
I doubt many women know that stuff. They are probably pretty ignorant to bisexuals unless they are drunk and making out with their friends cause they are "fun" and "spontaneous" :3. I was actually hoping to be enlightened by your response which I was. Im not part of that world and I never really think about it. So Im just trying to be the voice of the ignorant atm. Yeah, I think you’re right! No worries, having to talk to “ignorance” on these topics forces me to critically think a bit more. Eventually I’ll get tired of it but right now I’m new to the queer community so it’s a good exercise. I think a major way to remedy it is to have positive bi representation in media, especially of bi men. Right now bi people in media tend to be creepy and weird and hypersexualized, which kinda harms those of us who like to think we’re none of those things. But I think that the best thing I can do for it personally is just force people to consider the human before the label
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Konflikt posted...
How'd you get the idea it was scaring women away? Well, I consider myself pretty attractive and when I had Tinder about 2 years ago I had a lot of matches (before I know I was bi, so all women). But after 3 days I only have 4 women matched to me and like 15 men. Now, small sample size and all that, but it’s also pretty common knowledge that people who aren’t bi are sometimes really weird about bi people, consciously or otherwise
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BloodyNate posted...
I think a major way to remedy it is to have positive bi representation in media, especially of bi men. Right now bi people in media tend to be creepy and weird and hypersexualized, which kinda harms those of us who like to think we’re none of those things. But I think that the best thing I can do for it personally is just force people to consider the human before the label I was trying to think of something more in your control. But I think you figured it out there at the end. I was diagnosed with a lung disease as a kid and I always hated the idea that some people would see me as the kid with the lung disease before anything else. It's a different situation but there are similarities. Id over hear my mom tell someone I hung out with and would just think "I hope this person doesn't pity me now". It fucked with the whole equal dynamic I wanted to establish first. I can't be too close with anyone who pities me.
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Lost_All_Senses posted...
I was trying to think of something more in your control. But I think you figured it out there at the end. I was diagnosed with a lung disease as a kid and I always hated the idea that some people would see me as the kid with the lung disease before anything else. It's a different situation but there are similarities. Id over hear my mom tell someone I hung out with and would just think "I hope this person doesn't pity me now". It fucked with the whole equal dynamic I wanted to establish first. I can't be too close with anyone who pities me. lol I figured you were, that’s why I made sure to not make it all about my frustrations with where bi people are in the cultural zeitgeist. I can definitely see the similarities, it’s a weird thing. It makes you lose control of a situation a bit when something as loaded as cancer or sexuality becomes your defining characteristic, when the reality is that it’s only one facet of many that make you and I who we are
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it'd be cool to hear the results/dates you get from this
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Funbazooka posted...
Maybe feminists should take this up as a serious discriminatory issue to be fixed. Seriously. Theoretically intersectional feminism addresses issues of sexuality and discrimination within those camps. But I could stand for it to go further on a larger scale. I wouldn’t mind being part of some straight girls project to be more woke lol Parappa09 posted... it'd be cool to hear the results/dates you get from this My friend, I will be sure to report them 😊
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Parappa09 posted...
@BloodyNate how’s it going? A little weird, actually. I got a few more women matched and spoken to a few. I had a girl on Bumble message me and we talked briefly (she said she just got out of a relationship, and so did I!), and then and we talked about hooking up, even tonight? But then she said she was with another dude tonight and kinda strung me along in a weird way. Idk, I’ll message her back tomorrow, see if she’s legit. I’d think she’s a catfish if she weren’t doing all the little things to kinda seem like a real woman... then again idk, maybe it is a catfish and I remove her, doesn’t really bother me. Best I get is sex, the worst I get is, what, a little embarrassed? Also, a few dudes messaged me and I messaged back and I got flirty in one but ended up removing him because he was 18 which is waaaay too young I realized. I’m talking to this one dude who also likes weed, his name is Andre and he’s 26 and works in a food cart which is just my speed right now fuck damn I like him
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BloodyNate posted...
Update: just messaged Andre asking for his number and I said “I think you’re cool” wtf am I doin ayyyy you're falling for him :) sounds good though |
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Parappa09 posted...
BloodyNate posted...Update: just messaged Andre asking for his number and I said “I think you’re cool” wtf am I doin Well I mean I'm also under the influence and I like guys a lot more when I am, and I had just been blueballed by that other girl. But also he is cute. Is it unrealistic to hope that my first time with a man will be in a MMF threesome? Because that's what I want
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BloodyNate posted...
Well I mean I'm also under the influence and I like guys a lot more when I am, and I had just been blueballed by that other girl. But also he is cute. i remember when you were drunk on CE and had to throw up lolol. but i'm guessing a different type of influence ha nah i wouldn't say it's unrealistic. there'll be people up for MMF, especially on the internet. maybe not with andre since he's probs into you :) |
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Parappa09 posted...
i remember when you were drunk on CE and had to throw up lolol. but i'm guessing a different type of influence ha oh fuck i totally forgot i was on ce when that happened! i haven't consumed alcohol since then. it makes me sick now. i'll keep andre in my hip pocket, so then one day maybe he can get in my butt pocket
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Anisoptera posted...
women are more homophobic than men. i think it's a loaded topic, but that's no unrelated. although i wouldn't go as far as to call all women homophobic, and i would definitely not think that they're more homophobic than all men, but whatevs
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BloodyNate posted...
oh fuck i totally forgot i was on ce when that happened! i haven't consumed alcohol since then. it makes me sick now. hahah, i prefer drinking to smoking. the feeling i get from smoking weed is dope but i hate the act of smoking i gotta try some edibles when i'm in cali tho BloodyNate posted... i'll keep andre in my hip pocket, so then one day maybe he can get in my butt pocket pics of andre >.> |
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Parappa09 posted...
hahah, i prefer drinking to smoking. the feeling i get from smoking weed is dope but i hate the act of smoking Edibles are killer and how I got into the game. But I got a dry herb vape which is nice because the temperatures you inhale are so much lower, and you can make edibles with the buds afterwards! Parappa09 posted... pics of andre >.> lol you horny bastard https://imgur.com/gallery/GKufqDj nicklebro posted... Some probably are worried that you're actually gay or at least more gay than straight. ugh
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Anisoptera posted...
women are more homophobic than men. As far as relationship standards in general, actually yes. There are more men who would accept a girlfriend being bisexual provided she was still very appealing to be with for the man. To an extent, some men would not even find the possibility of the bi gf hooking up with other women as an immediate threat. Some men would welcome that kind of fetish scenario as long as it never impeded on their benefits in the relationship. Women, on the other hand, are typically not as eager to accept that arrangement with a bisexual man for multiple reasons. There might be a notable amount of women who sexually fantasize about male/male scenarios just like the amount of men who fantasize about lesbians, but that's not equivalent to the women actually wanting a relationship with a bisexual male partner. Not for the long run. Women in general either initially or eventually prioritize commitment in relationships. That means the man desires "just her". It's very rare for a woman to not fall into this age old trend once she's ready for a significant relationship. Once most women reach that stage, they're typically not okay with their men having any open sexual encounters because it could cause issues with common advanced relationship goals like marriage and raising a family. Most women don't want their men sleeping around with other partners when it comes time to settle down, open relationship or not. They want the man's priorities to be set on supporting the family and home, not his open sexual adventures which could naturally conflict with that. There is a longstanding stigma towards bisexual people that implies they're promiscuous nymphomaniacs and casually dishonest about it; that they can not grasp the value of fidelity and are unable to be exclusive. However, it's bisexual men who receive the greater brunt of that stereotypical criticism both from women attracted to men and ironically some fellow LGBT peers. The AIDS controversy actually has very little to do with why most women will lose their interest in an attractive man once it's revealed he's any other orientation besides heterosexual. It's why it's not uncommon to see a rapid decline in female fan base once a popular hunky icon comes out as queer. It kills the women's fantasies of the male icon ever being intensely attracted to them and no one else. The key words being there: "no one else", because many women still desire unquestionable commitment as part of the package when they fantasize about their ideal trysts.
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nicklebro posted...BloodyNate posted...show hidden quote(s) A likely assumption.
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